Is it a questions of motivation or time?

I had two career events scheduled this week.  I had time for both, small windows of time when my daughter is in school but time nevertheless.  I didn't go to either of them.  I missed one because I wanted to play racket-ball with my husband and this window of time was the only one we could find.  I missed the next one because I had a thing at work. I feel really flaky and bad about it but really, I don't regret it.  I just didn't have the time.  If I am always putting my family/health/relationships first does that mean their is no time for anything else? I can be so good at organizing most things but my career seems to elude me.